One of the most difficult emotions to deal with if you've had a difficult upbringing is disappointment. It can feel like Betrayal, which is on the more intense side of the disappointment spectrum.
But why is that? Well growing up in an environment where your needs were consistently unmet will create a consistent state of feeling disappointed. Now if this only happened 1 or 2 times, it wouldn't be a big deal, but an entire childhood means you have a memory of disappointment lasting 18 years or more.
And let's round that to 20 to account for the potential extra time.
What this means is that anytime you feel even a teensy bit of disappointment your brain will automatically assume that this will last 20 years or more, because that was your experience. Therefore, leading to a huge response, because that's terrifying and overwhelming.
Even the idea of potentially disappointing someone else can create distress because your experience makes your brain assume that the other person may also feel disappointment with 20 years worth of intensity, which really isn't something you'd like to wish on anyone.
Part of healing from childhood trauma is recognizing that emotions don't have to last that long, by doing the work of untangling the past from the present.
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